Choose FEAR

Growth is a funny thing. We all want to grow .. we read about it and lots of people talk about it .. but how? In my opinion, real growth is hidden.

Hidden deep within the things that scare you. When you choose to pursue the things that scare you the most .. you will meet up with ‘your growth moment’ .. when you push through your fears, you grow.

The best part of this is that once you grow out of your current comfort zone .. you can never go back. It’s the new you and than you start again with the process.

Becoming an entrepreneur or following your passion for music and arts or working towards that office promotion .. whatever you desire ..

Choose to go after the things that scare you.

– with love

Change your label. Change your future.

From being labelled “dumb and stupid” in #singapore to “entrepreneur, CEO and mentor” in Canada .: what an incredible journey of growth over the past 20 years.

I have had some amazing coaches and mentors to guide me along the way. People who saw greatness in me before I did. No one can do it alone.

Hoping to play my small part in the success of others thru my past experiences and personal history.

Get in touch if you can use some help and guidance.

– with love

Write your FUTURE

Whatever it is that you dream of .. conventional wisdom says, “start and figure it out” .. “get moving” .. “take the first step .. “ etc .. but I can tell you from experience, STEP ONE is to write down your FUTURE.

At 20, I wrote the following, (without a plan)

1. I want to help companies with Tech solutions

2. I want to make 100k

3. I want an office downtown, on Spadina

4. I want to have 2 people working for me

5. I will attend 3 networking events weekly

As soon as I wrote this, it became a real plan. It gave me milestones I can track and measure against. I reviewed the list daily .. decisions I made in business and for myself were more disciplined and kept me on the path to my achieve my goals. I was able to articulate to everyone i met my vision and the effort it needed.

Writing it down also forced me to have a gut check and sprinkle some reality into the thinking. What can I really accomplish? Who is in my corner to help me? What skills do I needed to work on? .. you get the picture.

While the journey took close to 3 years, I had that list checked off by the time I turned 23. We were working with 3 top CPG clients making websites, I had a small office at Spadina and Dundas .. You can literally WRITE YOUR FUTURE. – with love

Your resume is not your real value.

Let’s talk about your resume .. the big and long list of your “skills”. I meet so many people looking for advice on changing careers or recently let go from a position and are not sure what to next ..

I spent 25 years in building 4 successful businesses and a million that didn’t work out .. and as an ‘ex-ceo’ starting 2018, I was in the same boat. My value was always tied to my skills in tech. I would talk about project management, digital strategic thinking, SEO, SEM, Media buy .. app development etc .. but I realized that the more I only saw myself as a culmination of “skills’ the more I was stuck within the same opportunities.

Once i started to look at the value of my experiences .. other “skills” showed up .. Business planning(4 startups and mentoring), Marketing/PR (through desiFEST), Creative (all the client work via BlueBand) .. Investor (through all the failed startups) .. and more.

I would not have the opportunity to invest and become co-founder at @Bwell_Fitness (can’t wait to share more in 2019) or venture into internet security with @ResClould or VR/AR with @BablyonVR .. and more.

So, message of the day … if you are feeling stuck and frustrated, think of the value your experiences can bring to the market and not just the skills you have. – with love

Life is not happening to you, it is a reflection of you!

Life is not happening to you, it is a reflection of you.

The law of mirroring is one of the 12 universal laws, and is sometimes referred to as the law of attraction, though they are not exactly the same thing. The law of mirroring explains that we aren’t only attracting certain circumstances into our lives, we are actually getting glimpses of who we are through how we perceive others. That which is painful can teach us where we need to heal. That which is joyful can teach us where we are doing well.

Anaïs Nin said it like this: “We see the world not as it is, but as we are.”

Iyanla Vanzant said it like this: “What we love in other people is what we love in ourselves. What we hate in other people is what we cannot see in ourselves.”

The Law of Reflection deals with the fact that everything you see is only a mirror reflection of that which is within you.  This is one of the hardest laws for people to understand and accept because we like to think that it is outside people or circumstances that are causing us to be happy or angry.  Since everything is vibration it is you who is attracting these external situations to you. Hence, that individual who irritates you has come into your life because that is an active vibration within you.  That irritable person is mirroring that which exists within you.

Understanding the law of mirroring puts you back in the driver’s seat of your life. It reminds you that everything that bothers, disturbs or discomforts you in life offers you an opportunity to grow, shift and expand… and move ever closer to the life you know you want and are meant to live.

NEVER GIVE UP!

“If you are struggling, keeping fighting. If you have been sacrificing, don’t give up. If you feel defeated, remember help is always available. Wherever you are today, believe that it will get better.

Keep going, keep showing up, and REFUSE to leave before your miracle happens.” – with love

Try the 60/30 Minutes Rule!

For the next 30 days, devote just 60 minutes of your time after work to the best opportunity in your life. Nothing else. Zero distractions. Your single most important task within that time is to make even the smallest progress on your passion project. You don’t have to make significant progress. But it matters that you stay consistent.
Do not compromise family values to get ahead in life though. If 60 minutes is not realistic for you. Dedicate 30 uninterrupted minutes to it for the next 30 days and you will be amazed at the results.
However slow you move or improve, you will be deeply fulfilled in the fact that you are actually pursuing something you care about. Something that means the world to you. Something you have always wanted to do.

ASK YOURSELF: “IS THIS USEFUL?”

ASK YOURSELF: “IS THIS USEFUL?”

It’s designed to help you assess if a thought is serving you or others–or if it’s just irrational. “If the worry is reasonable, do something about it, If it’s irrational or out of your control, recognize that. Neuroscience shows that merely making a decision like this can reduce worry and anxiety.”

“Is this useful?” Pausing to ask that question does a few things:

First, it forces you to climb out of your thoughts and see them from a new perspective.

Second, asking “Is this useful?” makes it more intentional. Unlike desperately shouting at my thoughts to “STOP”, I calmly faced them head-on and assessed them. I quickly decided if the thoughts served me, and I let those that didn’t fall to the wayside.

Try it out next time. – with love

Stretch YOUR MIND!

The mind, once stretched by a new idea, never returns to its original dimensions.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson

Exercise your creative genius. Anything new to your brain can stimulate it.

When was the last time you questioned the existing convention, conceptualized problems differently, approached problems in new, innovative way.

Steve Job’s calligraphy course in college helped build the first Mac. In his famous 2005 Commencement speech for Stanford University, Jobs said:

If I had never dropped in on that single calligraphy course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts.

You never know what will be useful ahead of time. Try new skills and they will connect with the rest of your skills in the future.

– with love

The future moment is right NOW.

One of the side effects to being immigrants in a new country is being in ‘survival’ mode from day one. We landed in 1989 ..
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My parents turn it on as soon as we landed and it become a way life. .. My dad would tell me everyday to focus on school, don’t make friends, get home right away and study study. We lived way below our means to save every penny for a rainy day. I didn’t realize I was being trained to see the world ‘a cup always half empty’ .. always waiting for a future day to start living my life. ..
This training was very beneficial when stating my businesses but I realized much later in life that I was always saving for a ‘future better day’ to start enjoying life. No matter how successful I was, I was always scared it will all be gone if I stopped to enjoy it .. – saved my good shoes for special events
– only wear my good watch at weddings
– suits I wouldn’t wear unless it’s big meeting …. You get the picture. ..
When I got hit with my cancer scare, not knowing how many days I have left .. I needed my world to feel ‘cup half full’ .. I didn’t know how. It wasn’t my natural thinking. I struggled to live in the moment. ..
We listen to this “always on” message the world serves up and save up for a future day to start enjoying life. Today, I ask you to stop and enjoy the NOW. Wear that fancy dress out.. rock that shiny watch, buy that thing you have been walking by all week..take that trip, make that call…you deserve it.
The future moment is right NOW.
-Love