Life is not happening to you, it is a reflection of you!

Life is not happening to you, it is a reflection of you.

The law of mirroring is one of the 12 universal laws, and is sometimes referred to as the law of attraction, though they are not exactly the same thing. The law of mirroring explains that we aren’t only attracting certain circumstances into our lives, we are actually getting glimpses of who we are through how we perceive others. That which is painful can teach us where we need to heal. That which is joyful can teach us where we are doing well.

Anaïs Nin said it like this: “We see the world not as it is, but as we are.”

Iyanla Vanzant said it like this: “What we love in other people is what we love in ourselves. What we hate in other people is what we cannot see in ourselves.”

The Law of Reflection deals with the fact that everything you see is only a mirror reflection of that which is within you.  This is one of the hardest laws for people to understand and accept because we like to think that it is outside people or circumstances that are causing us to be happy or angry.  Since everything is vibration it is you who is attracting these external situations to you. Hence, that individual who irritates you has come into your life because that is an active vibration within you.  That irritable person is mirroring that which exists within you.

Understanding the law of mirroring puts you back in the driver’s seat of your life. It reminds you that everything that bothers, disturbs or discomforts you in life offers you an opportunity to grow, shift and expand… and move ever closer to the life you know you want and are meant to live.

NEVER GIVE UP!

“If you are struggling, keeping fighting. If you have been sacrificing, don’t give up. If you feel defeated, remember help is always available. Wherever you are today, believe that it will get better.

Keep going, keep showing up, and REFUSE to leave before your miracle happens.” – with love

Try the 60/30 Minutes Rule!

For the next 30 days, devote just 60 minutes of your time after work to the best opportunity in your life. Nothing else. Zero distractions. Your single most important task within that time is to make even the smallest progress on your passion project. You don’t have to make significant progress. But it matters that you stay consistent.
Do not compromise family values to get ahead in life though. If 60 minutes is not realistic for you. Dedicate 30 uninterrupted minutes to it for the next 30 days and you will be amazed at the results.
However slow you move or improve, you will be deeply fulfilled in the fact that you are actually pursuing something you care about. Something that means the world to you. Something you have always wanted to do.

ASK YOURSELF: “IS THIS USEFUL?”

ASK YOURSELF: “IS THIS USEFUL?”

It’s designed to help you assess if a thought is serving you or others–or if it’s just irrational. “If the worry is reasonable, do something about it, If it’s irrational or out of your control, recognize that. Neuroscience shows that merely making a decision like this can reduce worry and anxiety.”

“Is this useful?” Pausing to ask that question does a few things:

First, it forces you to climb out of your thoughts and see them from a new perspective.

Second, asking “Is this useful?” makes it more intentional. Unlike desperately shouting at my thoughts to “STOP”, I calmly faced them head-on and assessed them. I quickly decided if the thoughts served me, and I let those that didn’t fall to the wayside.

Try it out next time. – with love

Stretch YOUR MIND!

The mind, once stretched by a new idea, never returns to its original dimensions.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson

Exercise your creative genius. Anything new to your brain can stimulate it.

When was the last time you questioned the existing convention, conceptualized problems differently, approached problems in new, innovative way.

Steve Job’s calligraphy course in college helped build the first Mac. In his famous 2005 Commencement speech for Stanford University, Jobs said:

If I had never dropped in on that single calligraphy course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts.

You never know what will be useful ahead of time. Try new skills and they will connect with the rest of your skills in the future.

– with love

The future moment is right NOW.

One of the side effects to being immigrants in a new country is being in ‘survival’ mode from day one. We landed in 1989 ..
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My parents turn it on as soon as we landed and it become a way life. .. My dad would tell me everyday to focus on school, don’t make friends, get home right away and study study. We lived way below our means to save every penny for a rainy day. I didn’t realize I was being trained to see the world ‘a cup always half empty’ .. always waiting for a future day to start living my life. ..
This training was very beneficial when stating my businesses but I realized much later in life that I was always saving for a ‘future better day’ to start enjoying life. No matter how successful I was, I was always scared it will all be gone if I stopped to enjoy it .. – saved my good shoes for special events
– only wear my good watch at weddings
– suits I wouldn’t wear unless it’s big meeting …. You get the picture. ..
When I got hit with my cancer scare, not knowing how many days I have left .. I needed my world to feel ‘cup half full’ .. I didn’t know how. It wasn’t my natural thinking. I struggled to live in the moment. ..
We listen to this “always on” message the world serves up and save up for a future day to start enjoying life. Today, I ask you to stop and enjoy the NOW. Wear that fancy dress out.. rock that shiny watch, buy that thing you have been walking by all week..take that trip, make that call…you deserve it.
The future moment is right NOW.
-Love

I LOVE bookstores.

I LOVE bookstores. There is so much knowledge, inspiration, aspiration, fiction to biographies .. all in one place. For free. ..
Whenever I need a bit of inspiration, I hit up the local @chaptersindigo and walk up and down the rows of books. Not knowing what I am looking for .. I tend to find books I wouldn’t typically pick up. Books that offer a new world to imagine .. a culture to understand .. a new life to learn from. ..
I am trying to do that with the kids. Get them off the #iPad world and into books .. help them dream and travel across the world within these pages. ..
I still buy a book every time I travel. Something to remind me of a new place and a new adventure .: do you read? What are you reading? -Love

 

What does success look like to you?

How do you achieve success? What does success look like to you? Is there a blueprint to follow?
To be honest, I don’t know the answer. I do however have a plan that works for me. I realized very early in my business career that while I had big goals, it was too stressful to always think ‘big picture’ .. starting every morning with BIG GOALS like, “I want to make a million this year” or “I want to buy my first BMW” before turning 30 etc .. then I met a coach who showed me a different approach.She said, “People do not decide their futures or successes, they decide their daily habits and their habits decide their futures and successes.” I started to focus on my daily habits. Small steps but consistent steps,
1. Making 10 cold calls a day
2. Connecting with 1 client a week for in-person meeting
3. Attending one networking event per week
4. Running 20 mins day .. Etc.. and these small daily habits led to some amazing results.

Every week, as I plan my days and review my goals, I also review my habits. Keeping the ones that enable me and dropping the ones that no longer add value.
So, parting thoughts .. success happens daily. You might not see it or feel it everyday .. but your daily habits will culminate into success over time. Share one empowering habit below ..

-With Love

Travel is the BEST gift you can give yourself.

Everytime I travel .. I am reminded of how beautiful the world really is .. how strangers can become lifelong friends … how fear changes to excitement .. how uninspired turns into inspiration and passion.

Whenever possible .. choose travel over buying things. It will change you for the better. 🙏🏻 -love

Who are you listening to?

I took this picture just for this post. It’s to talk about the person you see in the mirror every day. The conversations you have with yourself is the most POWERFUL daily moment in self-growth. Unfortunately, if you are like me.. I used to only talk to myself about the shit that was bad. A constant drip of harsh and negative shit.. to myself.
It took a while and lots of self growth to realize that the “negative voice” wasn’t mine. It was the culmination of all the negative noise from my past. The voices of my dad, teachers, friends no longer in my life, clients, ex’s, haters .. you get it. We all have them. 🙏🏻

So.. Practice ignoring that voice. Let it talk. Do it’s thing. Then look it as you move past it. Cuz, right past that “negative noise” is YOUR voice. Your voice is there to encourage you. To motivate you. To push you. To tell you that you are doing what you are meant to be doing and that you are an awesome person. Period.

If you can’t hear that voice and I didn’t for many many years, please trust that it’s there and that you need to start moving past your own negative noise. – with love 🙏🏻