The future moment is right NOW.

One of the side effects to being immigrants in a new country is being in ‘survival’ mode from day one. We landed in 1989 ..
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My parents turn it on as soon as we landed and it become a way life. .. My dad would tell me everyday to focus on school, don’t make friends, get home right away and study study. We lived way below our means to save every penny for a rainy day. I didn’t realize I was being trained to see the world ‘a cup always half empty’ .. always waiting for a future day to start living my life. ..
This training was very beneficial when stating my businesses but I realized much later in life that I was always saving for a ‘future better day’ to start enjoying life. No matter how successful I was, I was always scared it will all be gone if I stopped to enjoy it .. – saved my good shoes for special events
– only wear my good watch at weddings
– suits I wouldn’t wear unless it’s big meeting …. You get the picture. ..
When I got hit with my cancer scare, not knowing how many days I have left .. I needed my world to feel ‘cup half full’ .. I didn’t know how. It wasn’t my natural thinking. I struggled to live in the moment. ..
We listen to this “always on” message the world serves up and save up for a future day to start enjoying life. Today, I ask you to stop and enjoy the NOW. Wear that fancy dress out.. rock that shiny watch, buy that thing you have been walking by all week..take that trip, make that call…you deserve it.
The future moment is right NOW.
-Love

I LOVE bookstores.

I LOVE bookstores. There is so much knowledge, inspiration, aspiration, fiction to biographies .. all in one place. For free. ..
Whenever I need a bit of inspiration, I hit up the local @chaptersindigo and walk up and down the rows of books. Not knowing what I am looking for .. I tend to find books I wouldn’t typically pick up. Books that offer a new world to imagine .. a culture to understand .. a new life to learn from. ..
I am trying to do that with the kids. Get them off the #iPad world and into books .. help them dream and travel across the world within these pages. ..
I still buy a book every time I travel. Something to remind me of a new place and a new adventure .: do you read? What are you reading? -Love

 

What does success look like to you?

How do you achieve success? What does success look like to you? Is there a blueprint to follow?
To be honest, I don’t know the answer. I do however have a plan that works for me. I realized very early in my business career that while I had big goals, it was too stressful to always think ‘big picture’ .. starting every morning with BIG GOALS like, “I want to make a million this year” or “I want to buy my first BMW” before turning 30 etc .. then I met a coach who showed me a different approach.She said, “People do not decide their futures or successes, they decide their daily habits and their habits decide their futures and successes.” I started to focus on my daily habits. Small steps but consistent steps,
1. Making 10 cold calls a day
2. Connecting with 1 client a week for in-person meeting
3. Attending one networking event per week
4. Running 20 mins day .. Etc.. and these small daily habits led to some amazing results.

Every week, as I plan my days and review my goals, I also review my habits. Keeping the ones that enable me and dropping the ones that no longer add value.
So, parting thoughts .. success happens daily. You might not see it or feel it everyday .. but your daily habits will culminate into success over time. Share one empowering habit below ..

-With Love

Travel is the BEST gift you can give yourself.

Everytime I travel .. I am reminded of how beautiful the world really is .. how strangers can become lifelong friends … how fear changes to excitement .. how uninspired turns into inspiration and passion.

Whenever possible .. choose travel over buying things. It will change you for the better. 🙏🏻 -love

Who are you listening to?

I took this picture just for this post. It’s to talk about the person you see in the mirror every day. The conversations you have with yourself is the most POWERFUL daily moment in self-growth. Unfortunately, if you are like me.. I used to only talk to myself about the shit that was bad. A constant drip of harsh and negative shit.. to myself.
It took a while and lots of self growth to realize that the “negative voice” wasn’t mine. It was the culmination of all the negative noise from my past. The voices of my dad, teachers, friends no longer in my life, clients, ex’s, haters .. you get it. We all have them. 🙏🏻

So.. Practice ignoring that voice. Let it talk. Do it’s thing. Then look it as you move past it. Cuz, right past that “negative noise” is YOUR voice. Your voice is there to encourage you. To motivate you. To push you. To tell you that you are doing what you are meant to be doing and that you are an awesome person. Period.

If you can’t hear that voice and I didn’t for many many years, please trust that it’s there and that you need to start moving past your own negative noise. – with love 🙏🏻

Sounds familiar? “Will do it tomorrow”

Sounds familiar? “Will do it tomorrow” is the best way to never do it. If it’s important.. start now. CONTINUING means it’s already in motion. Motion = momentum. That’s the goal .. to create daily momentum in pursuit of your DREAMS. – with Love

Life really is like a box of chocolate.

Life really is like a box of chocolate. It’s full of moments you like AND moments that you hate. Unfortunately…it’s all from the same box. Your life.
You see, when you pick up a piece of chocolate and put it int your mouth … within seconds you decide if you like it or not. In most cases your GUT reaction is right. BUT sometimes a little unexpected surprise awaits after the third chew. That awful taste turns into something sweet and unexpected.
I see life a lot like that box of chocolate. Sometimes what starts of looking bad can actually be good for you. You just need to give it some time and be OPEN to new ideas, new people and new experiences. – with love

Ever have lazy days?

Ever have lazy days? Lack of motivation and just want to stay in bed? .. I was like that last week. I started thinking about WHY? Why some people get up at 5am to workout .. HOW some people can resist junk food .. WHY some of us can take big risks in life .. I came across the following little blurb .. made a lot of sense. .
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If you care, you won’t stay idle. When you know the “why” behind your actions, you simply do the work. Only when complacency is greater than your motivation do you procrastinate. And when desire burns in your heart, you don’t postpone your activities, but fill them with attention and focus. “Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.”
― Mahatma Gandhi -with love

Dream BIG .. its the same effort to Thinking Small.

DREAM BIG .. it’s the same effort to THINK SMALL. .
I was told this 10 years ago! I still think about this everyday. .
Feeing almost back to 💯 .. this nasty flu knocked me out for almost 2 weeks. .
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Being off social media most of the time also has me talking and meeting people to catch up. Much more fulfilling. .
– with love

I was listening to Masterclass by @oprah and this episode was with Jayz. He says, “Excellence is being able to perform at a higher level over and over again.” – #jayz
What does it take to perform at a higher level over and over again? One, know what you are good at. If don’t know, ask. People around you know. For me, I was a natural problem solver .. when I was a kid I can DJ real good or hit a 3pt consistently with a sick crossover .. but it wasn’t my ONE thing. .
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Two, working on your craft daily. Over the last 20 years, 3 startups and with hundreds of client challenges to solve everyday .. it helped me work on my skill. I got to work on the one skill that made me naturally good. While working on it, other skills developed. I found ways to innovate, push boundaries and grow my confidence. It was a daily battle .. no days off. Some days were hard and I kept at it. I got obsessed with it. The pain became that “good pain”. .
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Three, not stop when failure happens. You can’t learn as much from success. It’s your failures that teach. It’s the “park bench moments” that are tough. Some of us walk away from the situation to ease temporary pain or stress. Some of us get up and keep chasing our purpose and put in the work. Everything that happens in your life is to build your character. .
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I believe EVERYONE has the potential for excellence. It’s not easy but it’s achievable. -with love